These are all questions that you must answer before looking for anything. Too many guys go looking to practice their “game” with no actual result to aim for. That would be like setting sail to a destination you do not know. As romantic or adventurous as that sounds here’s the bottom line – you will never know you arrive at a place if you never determine what you are looking for. Without some sort of destination you have no ability to measure your progress. Without progress to measure you can never manage your journey. If you cannot manage your journey you will never reach your destination. Pretty simple.
Here’s the other advantage to you as a man when you know what you are looking for in a woman – you know when you find what you are not looking for and that makes it easy to move on. Without knowing what you want from a woman you give every woman 100% power over you to mesmerize you with their beauty, charm, sexuality, scent and the hopes of reaching the promised land. When you know what you are looking for you have much more ability to refute her powers and embark on a conversation to qualify her for entrance into your life. No longer are you begging her permission to enter her life but instead, because you work on self and add value to her life, you are qualifying her to see if she meets your list of desires and needs. This process isn’t done maliciously either. Because this list is one that you go over with positive vibes in hopes of multiplying that feeling, you qualify with those same positive vibes, not to knock her out of the runnings but to see if she meets your needs to stay in.
This is a powerful position. This gives you the ability to look for what you choose, what you desire and not just what ends up in your lap. And because who ever you choose you qualify and choose, they will be more special and feel that.
Like the old song said, make a list and check it twice.
Til next time, stay growing.
Mark Sparks
